No sleep

Do you ever have those moments when you go to bed and are super tired, you lay down, within a few minutes you fall asleep, then what seems like hours later you wake up suddenly? When in reality you were only asleep for 15 minutes to a half an hour. Yeah that happened to me last night. Once I was awake I tried everything to make myself fall asleep, a cup of sleepy time tea, played on my PC until I was bored, and I read a few long winded articles on FB. I know part of the issue is that I think to much and cannot shut my brain off and let to many things keep it running that probably not really that important. I try often to do and old method that my HS Drama teacher taught me, pretend that there is a big brown paper bag by the door of the room and leave all the stuff that is on your mind in that bag, when you come back to it only the important stuff will remain. Sometimes that works sometimes not so much. When you are in a negative situation, it doesn't take much for someone else to remind you of some of those things that are bothering you after you have already let them go.
It is easier said than done to let it all go especially when some of the things hurt so much and some of the wounds are old but there are constant reminders of them everyday. People will tell you if you are in this kind of situation to leave, to change it, to move on because they can, they have, or because that is what they would do. Everyone always has advice. Here is my advice, be wary of the advice you offer so freely, try to know and understand the persons situation as fully as they will let you before you judge and offer them your version of what you would do. What may seem like an excuse to you may be the honest reason they are not leaving, moving or making a change. If they tell you it is money, fear, job, or a vehicle, those seem like pretty good reasons why they may not legitimately be able to make a change. Money, vehicle, and a job are easy things to fix if the person has someone who is able to help them get a vehicle, then the job and money thing will happen. If it fear, be careful, you need to make sure that as an outsider you are careful with the person, but even more careful how you get involved with the person that is causing their fear. Do not push the person who is afraid, guide them to people who can help them, be there for them when things get tough, and make sure once you get involved in helping them get out, you have the time to be there for them while they get used to being on their own, and away from the person they are afraid of. Once you have gotten their trust they will most likely only trust you for a while, and need you more often than you will think, just because they are finally away from the person does not mean they are going to feel safe right away. Remember if you choose to be someone's light, you need to remain that bright spot in their life as long as they need you not as long as you feel like it.

MK